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about adult survivors
of childhood abuse, estrangement, forgiveness, and reconciliation.
"I left Mom's house stripped, whipped,
naked, and destroyed."
"Heal & Forgive is the author's potent account of the raw abusive underbelly
of human nature and the triumph over it."
- Excerpt from Midwest Book Reviewer, Sherry Russell
Nancy Richards’ fast-paced and empowering story of physical and emotional violence debunks the myth that we must “forgive in order to heal.”
On the contrary; attempting to forgive before we learn to protect ourselves can actually cause further injury. Sometimes, we must “heal first, and then forgive.”
This grab-you-in-the-gut, first-hand account of growing up in an abusive household should be read by anyone who has ever wondered: Is what I experienced abusive? Is what I experienced as a child abusive? Is what I am permitting abusive? Or, Is what I am doing abusive?
Written with refreshing clarity, objectivity and frank matter-of factness, many readers will recognize themselves and be touched by Nancy 's straightforward voice of validation. This author leads the reader deftly into the still largely uncharted controversial and confusing arena of forgiveness: What is it? When is it appropriate? How does it or doesn't it link with my healing? She offers wonderful signposts and resources along the way for the person wending their way through the wilderness of recovery from the silent inner pain abusive families inflict.
"This is a powerful contribution to the field of recovery from abuse. I will recommend it to many of my clients."
—Chris Richards, M.S.W.
A realistic, and compassionate blueprint
for coping with family estrangement
Anyone who has heard the devastating words, “I never want to see you again!” from a parent, sibling, or child, knows the torment of family exile.
All one needs to do is search the web for sites dealing with family estrangement to find endless choices for the countless individuals seeking help with family cut-off’s. From celebrities, to friends, co-workers, and neighbors we find people everywhere dealing with the effects of family rifts.
After a painful fourteen-year estrangement, author Nancy Richards and her family reunited. Heal and Forgive II: The Journey from Abuse and Estrangement to Reconciliation, presents a first-hand description of the journey towards healing and offers a blueprint for coming to terms with the past.
Nancy Richards draws the reader in with examples of coping with – and healing from – the effects of estrangement. Further, she offers hope and realistic measures to consider when attempting reconciliation.
This thought provoking work is sure to help many individuals navigate the often painful and confusing arena of family estrangement and reconciliation.
|Read the Review by Samin Khan,
Postgraduate Philosophy Lecturer, on
MetaPsychology Online Reviews. May 5th 2009 (Volume 13, Issue 19)